It has been exactly one year since we became a full-time family. The other day as we got ready in the morning, D said something about how he loves being in a family with two dogs and a beautiful mom!!!! Things are so different from the day he moved in. I am not constantly waiting for an outburst, attack, tantrum, or destructive rage. There are definitely still very rough moments, but they are moments and not a constant. About a week ago, we had a super milestone in anger management terms. I wanted D to take a shower before bed. He was busy watching cartoons. This could easily have been the start of an evening long battle had it happened a few months ago. And though he did come up to me aggressively, he was able to stop when I told him to slow down and think about what was happening. He went over to the dog and lay down next to him on the floor and hugged him for a while instead of hitting him in frustration. This helped him calm down and get it together a bit. I told him if he starts a fight every time he watches tv, something I've been noticing, we will have to rethink the whole tv privilege. He said he wasn't starting a fight, he was just ANGRY AT ME!!!!!! He used words!! To express his anger!!! And then did what I asked him to do!!!!!!! We are both proud of the self-control he showed. Here's hoping it will happen more and more frequently...
I'm still getting used to being a mom and everything that goes with it. I would never consider going back, though.
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